Dear Young and Confused Me,

Dear Young and Confused Me,

You don't know this yet, but you are about to face the hard reality that romance isn't like what you grew up seeing in your favorite Disney movies. Nope, the reality is actually way more heartbreaking than Cinderella ever portrayed in her songs, but don't you worry. You will also learn that all of your heartbreaks happen for a darn good reason.  

Young Me, you will meet a man who treats you like his everything. You will fall madly in love. However, you will gradually come to find out that it is all one big illusion. One day, he will hit you. Then, he will constantly tell you that you are worthless. You might begin to question your worth. Slowly, but surely, you will inevitably begin to feel downright worthless. At your lowest, he will cheat on you. And then, he will undoubtedly lie to your face about it. Yes, you will be left heartbroken, insecure, and scared. You don't know this yet, but this man teaches you to stand up for yourself. You are going to be one strong woman because of him.

Young Me, you will meet a man who treats you like a queen. You are not ready for a good man like him. You are not secure in yourself yet. You will treat him the way you feel about yourself. You will tell him that he is not worth your time. You will tell him that he is insignificant. You will leave him with many wrong doings. You don't know this yet, but this man teaches you that you should never treat a man the way you treated him. You are going to be one appreciative woman because of him.

Young Me, you will meet a man who flaunts you around like his prized trophy that he won in some stupid tournament. You are nothing more to him than a temporary ego boost. He will put the opinions of strangers before you. You will learn that he is hyper-focused on being loved by everyone and anyone, and that he will never find the time to learn how to love himself. You will wonder, how can a man who does not love himself love anyone else? You don't know this yet, but this man teaches you that the notion of self-love is critical. You are going to be one confident woman because of him. 

Young Me, you will be living your life when you unexpectedly meet a modern day knight in a shining suit. You will meet this man at the right moment of your life. After all, you have up to this point, learned strength, appreciation and self-love. It is as if everything you have been through has built you up for this very moment. You don't know this yet, but you end up marrying this man. You are going be one very blessed woman because of him. 

Young Me, I will leave you with this. At times, you will feel as if there is absolutely no hope and absolutely nowhere to go. But, hear me out when I say, every heartbreak happens for a darn good reason. 

xoxo Love Always, 

Older (Yet Still Confused) Me